The next time you find yourself around a group of people—at your office, in a meeting, on a bus, or at a family gathering—try this exercise. See how close you can stand or sit next to someone before you sense tension or before the other person engages you or asks you what you want. This exercise will help you calibrate how your energy signature works for or against you and will help you determine how to best connect in any given situation. Different cultures as well as individuals have their own thresholds of awareness. I’m reminded of the “pushers” Japan’s subways used to employ so that riders didn’t have to apologize for standing so close to strangers. In some eastern European countries yelling and talking have a thin line of demarcation, as does the idea of personal space.
What may seem “too close for comfort” to someone you want to communicate with might be no problem for you, but the exchange won’t go well unless you are able to adjust. In this case, you’d need to pull back to allow the other person “some space.” But first you must have that awareness easily available to you.
For now, simply notice where you related comfortably and when your proximity to someone began to feel uncomfortable for either of you. Naturally, in attempting this, exercise common sense. Initially you’ll want to try this exercise with people you know.