Slowing Down

Slowing Down, Working with Your Experiencing Self vs. Your Remembering Self

Depending on how old you are the idea of slowing down can bore you, scare you or sound like a guilty pleasure.  Slowing down can also be fun, guilt free, imaginative and healthy.  This month try planning some deliberately slow experiences and be open to expanding your Experiencing Self!

Your internal alarm system/reticular alarm system will thank you by allowing holiday stresses to roll more easily off your back.

For  example, walk your neighborhood and look for treasures, such as fallen leaves or pinecones or if you’re in an  urban city,  window shop viscerally, utilizing as many senses as you can   rather than looking with a to do list in mind.

Sit in a coffee shop and people watch.  Watch how differently people walk – it can be shocking to see how people hold their bodies in unique patterns when they walk.  See if you can figure out where they hold tension by how they walk. 

Do they favor one hip when they stand at the counter?  Hunched over, standing straight?  Do they stand straight as though they’re in the military or stand straight as though they’ve taken lots of yoga? There’s a difference!   Be as specific as you can in the brief moments they’re in your awareness.

Check out how they dress as well.  Do they either dress to blend in or dress to be noticed?   When you practice being The Observer of others you can then reflect back quite specifically to yourself.

For example, a brightly tattooed guy with a feather in his half-shaved head might really be an introvert and blend in with his friends.  Be open.  What looks nonconformist to you might feel conformist to another Observer.

 The idea is to flex the muscles of your Experiencing Self rather than your Remembering Self.

So also notice  what you assume and what you dismiss about each person who walks by.   Does the tatted up guy make you wonder if he’s a musician or does looking at him make you uncomfortable?  Neither observation would be wrong, your feelings can never be wrong,  but your take, your reaction does give you information as to your unconscious worldview. 

This exercise can be as fascinating as you allow it to be. 

It will help re-set your alarm system and help put you in parasympathetic just by virtue of the fact that you’re deliberately slowing down. Working with your Experiencing Self instead of your Remembering Self can re-boot your alarm system.

December can pull at us insistently,  whether to be cheery when we’re not or to shop before the best gifts are all gone.

The best gift you can give is to slow down  yourself. 

Do an inner check after you’ve practiced being Deliberately Slow.  Then if you’re going to make lists make one with the heading T hings I Don’t Really WANT to Do” and then see how many you can simply not do!  What an idea!

Then do a second list with the title “Things I  Don’t Really HAVE to Do” and see if that feels  easier. 

Notice how many things you don’t want to do are also on your second list.  Those are the ones to absolutely drop from your holiday plans.  No looking back, now!

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